Not all wedding rules are written in stone. Here are a few you can feel free to ignore.
1. You have to wear a white dress.
If the idea of a big, white dress and veil has never appealed to you, don't feel pressured into wearing one. Hair clips with feathers or even just a fresh flower (floral crowns) can replace a traditional veil, and there are plenty of bridal fashion designers who have created dresses in other colors – think: blush pink, dusty blue and even floral print. You can also add color (and personality) to a simple dress with a bold sash, bolero or cardigan.
2. If you went to their wedding, you have to invite them to yours.
Don’t feel trapped into inviting someone just because they invited you to their wedding. It’s your day – invite the people you feel closest to. If someone assumes they’re invited, let them know up front (sooner rather than later) that because of space or budget constraints, you had to limit the guest list.
3. Going DIY will save you money.
Make no mistake – DIY isn’t always the cheapest route. Unless you have unlimited access to the supplies it takes to create your own stationery or flower arrangements, the cost of these items alone is really going to add up (not to mention the amount of time it takes to create invitations for 100). Do some research before you start buying paper and flowers in bulk to make sure it wouldn’t be worth your while (or your sanity) to simply hire Floral Company, such as Chic Flowers.
4. You have to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsmen.
So maybe he has a ton of friends, and you just have a few close girlfriends. Don’t feel like you have to hire extras to even out the sides. What’s important is that everyone you feel close to is a part of your day. Divvy up the jobs: Make some of the guys ushers and others readers. One can even be your honorary toast-giver. If those positions are filled, that’s okay too – there’s no rule that says both sides should have the same number.